There is a great, short article on ministering to singles written by Carolyn McCulley, author of Radical Womanhood.
What hit me most was her insightful reminder that "singles" in our churches are not one, monolithic group. It is an obvious point, but one that needs to be reiterated. We serve a person coming out of college differently than one heading into a second career.
One of the big changes that we've made at MVBC the last few years is getting rid of a singles-only Sunday school class. The benefit is that singles are seen more obviously as part of the body and not a separate group with separate needs. Another benefit is that all singles aren't lumped together (to Carolyn's point).
I heard that a couple of weeks ago, one of the men in our church who is currently single, invited his whole Sunday class to his apartment for a potluck lunch! Great idea. Men and women of all ages, some single, some married, brought food and conversation.
There are some disadvantages to not having a singles-only class. It can make it harder for singles to connect with singles. This means that the singles themselves who want that kind of time need to be extra hospitable and organize outings, gatherings, etc.
It seems one way for the church to bless singles would be for a member to open up his or her home on occasion to singles.
How about you?